How to Find a Mentor in Aviation (Even If You Don’t Know Anyone)
One of the most common things I hear from aspiring pilots, especially women, is “I don’t know anyone in aviation.” If that’s you, I want you to know: you’re not behind. You’re just getting started. And finding a mentor might be easier than you think.
Why Mentorship Matters So Much in Aviation
Flying can feel isolating, especially in the beginning. You’re learning a completely new language, navigating an unfamiliar world, and making decisions that carry real consequences. Having someone who’s been through it — someone who can answer the questions you didn’t even know to ask makes the entire journey less lonely and more efficient.
A good mentor doesn’t have to be a formal thing with scheduled meetings and a signed agreement. Sometimes it’s just a more experienced pilot who checks in on your progress, gives you honest advice, and reminds you that the hard parts are temporary. That kind of support can be the difference between pushing through a rough patch and giving up.
Start Where You Are
Your flight school is the most natural place to start building connections. Talk to the other students. Introduce yourself to the instructors you don’t fly with. Hang around the FBO after your lesson and strike up conversations. Aviation people love talking about aviation it’s kind of our thing.
If your school hosts safety seminars, fly-ins, or social events, show up. These are low-pressure environments where you can meet pilots at every experience level. You’d be surprised how many seasoned pilots remember exactly what it felt like to be a student and are happy to share what they know.
Join Organizations That Connect You
If you’re a woman in aviation (or an ally), there are incredible organizations built specifically for community and mentorship. Women in Aviation International (WAI) hosts an annual conference that’s one of the best networking events in the industry, and they have local chapters all over the country. The Ninety-Nines, the international organization of women pilots founded by Amelia Earhart herself, has been connecting women in aviation since 1929 and offers mentorship programs, scholarships, and a built-in community.
There are also organizations like the Organization of Black Aerospace Professionals (OBAP), the Latino Pilots Association, and local EAA chapters that welcome aviators of all backgrounds. Find the communities where you feel seen and supported they exist, and they’re waiting for you.
Use Social Media (Yes, Really)
Aviation social media is genuinely one of the most welcoming corners of the internet. Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube are full of pilots sharing their training journeys, tips, and encouragement. Follow people whose stories resonate with you. Comment on their posts. Send a thoughtful DM introducing yourself and asking a specific question. Most aviation creators got into content because they wanted to help and many of them are happy to connect.
Facebook groups like “Student Pilots” and “Women in Aviation” are also great for asking questions and getting real answers from people who’ve been there. Don’t be shy. The aviation community is smaller and friendlier than you’d expect.
Be the Kind of Mentee People Want to Help
Here’s a piece of advice that goes a long way: be curious, be respectful of people’s time, and follow through. If someone gives you advice, try it. If someone recommends a resource, check it out and report back. The pilots who attract the best mentors are the ones who show initiative and genuine passion not the ones who expect someone else to hand them a career plan.
And don’t limit yourself to one mentor. Different people can guide you in different areas one might be great for flight technique, another for career advice, and another for emotional support on tough days. Build a network, not just a single relationship.
Pay It Forward
The beautiful thing about mentorship in aviation is that it comes full circle. The student pilot who got encouragement from a stranger at the airport becomes the CFI who inspires the next generation. Someday, you’ll be the experienced pilot that a nervous student looks up to. And when that moment comes, remember how much it meant when someone took the time for you.
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You don’t need to know anyone in aviation to start. You just need to show up, be open, and be willing to connect. Your people are out there — at the airport, online, and at events across the country. And if you’re reading this blog, you’ve already found one community that’s cheering you on.
Fly safe and blue skies,
Amber
“More women need to be in aviation. It’s a wonderful field.” — Bessie Coleman (paraphrased)
